Bisexual...Is it a cop out?

[Timmy]

Obviously, you are going to say, that there is no reason why it is worse than the other, because you cannot comprehend it! Because you clearly didn't experience what I did, there is no need for me to submitt any solid arguements, purely because you don't understand it. Therefore you fear, what you cannot comprehend!

I feel sorry for bisexual people if this is the crap they have to put up with (-:

Shame on you Eggy! At your age you should know better!

[Krulshards]

I feel sorry for bisexual people if this is the crap they have to put up with (-:

Shame on you Eggy! At your age you should know better!

Yes at the I only feel like 21, and look like 28, kind of age!

[Al]

It just happen again... yesterday talking with a friend, and saying that I saw a very good looking girl, once more the “oh it will be difficult to date a bisexual, now I get why you are single”. I was so angry that just close the laptop and went out for a smoke, without answering anything.

[Timmy]

It just happen again... yesterday talking with a friend, and saying that I saw a very good looking girl, once more the “oh it will be difficult to date a bisexual, now I get why you are single”. I was so angry that just close the laptop and went out for a smoke, without answering anything.

That kinda sucks.....

This is part (well most really) of the reason i identify as gay in real life. I don't see myself in a relationship with a girl anyway so it's no great loss cutting out the possibility of it......

In an ideal world you could be straight/gay/bi or whatever and no one would care. Sadly were not in an ideal world )-: I'v friends who identify as bisexual and they do have a tough time of it!

[Al]

I remember having attraction to both males and females since I was a child, like 7 or 8, I remember the first celebrity crush I had was with the characters of the never ending story film, I found atreju and the child empress very attractive, LOL.... but I had to suppress them for several years because “they” told me it was wrong. Society put a lot of pressure on their people to convince them that anything that is not heterosexual is bad, twisted, dirty... just see the word that people use to refer to heteros .. “straight” implying that anything that is not heterosexual is twisted. (personally I don’t use it, but that’s another story, I'm digressing)

The thing is that I stayed in the closet, pretending to be a normal hetero guy for 25 years, until I said, no more! I decided that I will not lie to myself and to others about who I am. But it happened that I was not gay either, to say that I have no attraction or sexual arousal to women will be as much as lying as saying that I have not for men. It will be denying part of my history, and even denying one person who I loved a lot, and she was a girl (the other person I can truly say I was in love to was a guy, btw) even when I'm much more attracted to men than women. And chances are, statistically speaking that I end up in a relationship with a man, and there's nothing wrong with that.

So yes, it could be much easier stay in the closet as gay (or hetero for that matters) and deny any other feelings, but I don't want to live a lie any more, is psychologically exhausting. But I'm finding equally exhausting to face rejection and mockery from both sides of the coin... there are times that I feel like a salmon swimming against the flow, and just get tired of it.

[Timmy]

Awwww my poor baby .....

I guess its easier for me. I'm a kinsey 4/5 anyway so i'm pretty much gay anyway..... Awwww i feel for ya though babes......

[y_not_try]

I'm still confused. I didn't have any sexual encounters with men until I was 35, and that was just light sex(i.e masterbation).
I guess I was scared. I then fell into a relationship with a woman. I was just tired of being lonely.
It was only about two years ago that I first went to bed with guy.
I definitely now prefer sex with men.
I wouldn't want another relationship with a woman.

[quoro]

I must admit that I have known little about bisexuality, but I do have a couple of Bi-mates and have discussed this with them a lot, so I do feel I understand a lot more now, and I'm glad I do as I fell into the trap that many do, which has already been expressed on here a few times. I think it's more likely, as has been suggested, that most people are bisexual, although they identify as homo/hetero because that describes them best and most effectively. When looking for a partner/shag/whatever, it's easier and more communicative if boundaries are clear, and I think this is where the Bi-sexual 'label' confuses people.
It would be a lot more helpful to Bi people if gay people didn't use the term during a transition, or whatever they need to use it for, but then, that is what a lot of people feel that they are until they are sure, so it's not without justification that it's used in this way. I'm surprised and saddened that some people think that a Bi person would be constantly looking around when in a relationship - that is about as truthful as saying that all gay men want to have sex with all men, irrespective of any other feature than they have a cock n arse, and that all straight men want to shag any female, etc etc.

There has to be on the scale, room for people who are genuinely in the middle. Queer (not LGBT) describes all sexuality, from heterosexual to necrophiliac, and all that's in between, these 4 expressions of sexuality (LGBT) seem to have become the morally and socially 'acceptable' ones, and brackets people into something that rarely describes them truthfully. I feel like the Bi people of this world are valuable, they have a balanced approach to many of our human aspects, and an objectiveness that is not as common amongst more defined people. So although I don't 'get it', I'm happy to share experiences and support Bi people, as we are all subject to some form of ignorance and prejudice. I don't like the idea that a fraction of the queer community is happy to devalue another, and create the same problems for them that they experience themselves.

[Lomata]

To who is being bi more acceptable? Gay people? Obviously not. To straight people? No. Gays have mitigating circumstances, they can't help it. But bis? We "choose" to be queer. And homophobes think we're to blame for straight people having HIV!