Do you have any interesting/funny/sad stories of personal experience or possibly even a friends experience when you/your friend came out? Any advice?

When I came out to my friend I was really nervous, so I ended up making her play a guessing game. She was very supportive when she did eventually guess it (she ended up guessed pregnancy before sexuality. :confused: ) lol

I need some advice here

I had this boyfriend, he was a compleat sweetie, let's call him Nick. He was all a boy could wish for, he treated me like a king...to bad i never saw that untill now a year and a month after we broke up. Well, I broke up with him.

All this guy could see was nothing more than me in his eyes, he was in love with me he'd take a bilit from me and he wouldn't go one day without calling or text just to tell me that he loved me. I never saw that though...I always took him for granted, even when I broke up with him saying that I didn't love him, with tears in his eyes he always told me that he didn't care and that it was ok, that nothing would change the love he fealt for me and that he still loved me.

Time passed and another guy cought my eye and it's fair to say that just for his looks i left Nick, but even though I told him it was over he'd still call and act as if nothing was wrong and tat we were still together. Time made him understand that i had moved on to another guy for his looks adn what's weird is that before he compleatly leftmy life warned me that I wouldn't be happy and that no one would loveme like he did, And with that he was up and left.

So a couple of weeks later I began dating the other "good looks guy" and turns out that I don't love him either... cuz now there's a constant reminder of Nick in the back of my mind that even though i'm happy with this new guy Nick's constant smile in my mind doesn't let me be happy. So now i've left the "good looks guy" and Nick. I not only left a guy for nothing but I hurt myself too.

So question here do you choose the one who loves you or the one who you like, obviously if you do like and have feelings for the one who loves you, but not "in love" ...BE HONEST PLEASE!

Is anyone doing the Great Yorkshire Run today?
http://www.greatrun.org/App_Files/Gr...-Route-Map.pdf

Hi all,

Can you help me with what to say either on a date or just chatting online to a maybe?

What are 3 quality questions that work and or have worked for you to make the guy really dig you?

M

How have you kept the fun in a relationship?

Recently to keep a relationship interesting, we did the whole scene from the Jerry Maguire movie where Tom and his narscisstic girlfriend have breakfast naked. So my partner and I did the whole thing, cooked raw and ate raw hah ha...
What this morning has done, is give my partner and I something to visually remember for a long time and something to talk about over the phone, when I was away.

I am sure there are many more ways to keep the FUN...

So what have you done to keep the fun in a relationship? Please be accepting of QUK rules when replying....

M:thumb:

This is kind of scary

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/20...lth-infections

How do gay people feel about interracial dating?

With gay people facing a level of unfair prejudice is their still a large stigma attached to race?

Are there many gay racists?

Any answers or thoughts would be greatly appreciated

Tim:smile:

Is anyone else on a diet here?

Hi guys!First post here so please be nice!I'm 24 and curious - I once had a few experiences with an old mate of mine years ago but I'm still curious and wanting to "spread my wings" a bit.What's the best (and safest!) way to gain experience with men? I have no gay or bi friends so it's quite difficult!Thanks

What are your thoughts about this. Would you, or does the thought of being 28 and a virgin make you run for the hills?

Would it be different if it was a one night stand as opposed someone you wanted to see again?

Is being a virgin at such an age viewed differently in the gay world as opposed to the straight world?

I am interested in your honest thoughts. Thanks

M

Would you date a guy or girl with a disability?

Visual Impairments, Deafness, Physical Disablement such as being wheelchair-bound

Do you think you would be able to overcome a partner's disabilities?

I personally have a visual impairment, it is quite severe and I am registered disabled however since I have had my disability since birth I have become quite well adjusted and it has to be said dating someone with a disability does not necessarily imply they would be an imposition upon you.

So would you date a disabled person? What if your partner became disabled would you stay with them?

Mod Note: This is a recovered thread

Someonething that has always worried me has been my weight...I used to weight about 18 stone (260 pounds i think) i now weight about 13 stone (180 pounds)...

It has always concerned me and ive attached some pics of what the top half of my body looks like..Please be truthful, what should i do now? Tell me what you think and also tell me weather i should still concentrate more on weight loss or should i build more muscle or something else?

Thanks in advance!

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Interesting, from BBC's today

http://news.bbc.co.uk/today/hi/today...00/8840660.stm

Ok me and my BF have been together for 15 months now. We have had our up and downs, he has sent pictures of himself to other people and i have snogged another guy (actually so as he). that aside we are in a loving relationship, we fight and make love just like any other couple. I love him though feel he can be much more imature than I am even through he is a year older than me (he is 23 i am 22), i want kids and marriage etc though i know thats not on the tables YET but i feel he never wants them.

This is the crux of it all, though i love him with all my heart, there is a woman at work who i find very attractive and very seductive, we flirt and such often and all i want to do is sleep with her. I know its wrong and i just need to find a way to get over it, but its a very strong urge!!!

ADVICE???

Well.....

I was thinking about this the other day. People do sometimes act strange sometimes when I'm with my boyfriend and were out with each other.

Luckily we've not been subject to any abuse but older people look when were out having dinner.

Anyone else notice small things..... Any funny stories?

OK,
I have been dating a woman who is a few years older than me (7) for a couple of months now and I have met her familly and want her to meet mine, my dad point blank says he will throw her out if i bring her home and my mom refuses to "betray" my dad by meeting her and i am forbidden from bringing her home to meet the familly.
They refuse to acknowledge the fact that I am in fact in a relationship with her and my mom keeps trying to label her a "friend" in a hope that my mind may suddenly change (my mind is made up!) and keeps trying to reel off all the reasons why i shouldn't be with her when i have the main reason why i should: its my choice of who i see and i want, her.
My mom says she wants me to be happy but can she not see that THIS is hurting me, I know that they are concerned as I met her straight out of a relationship; but that relationship was over a long time before it was made offical.

That shes 25: Age is just a number is two people people work well together

That she is a woman: I cannot change this fact and wouldnt if i could as i love her for the person that SHE is not who others want her to be.


How on earth do I get past this?? Don't I have the right to be with whoever i chose and be happy? What the hell right do they have to tell me who i can and cannot be with, can't they accept that I am happy?? This is making me angry and miserable :mad::frown:

sorry for my english...
Hello, my name is Kostya and here is my story ...
With one guy I met through friends, it was almost 5 years ago, (but then i was not sure that I was gay), we immediately became friends, well after we while began to meet without the company of friends. (I'm realy shy .. Sad). In the short time I knew him better than someone else, and he knew me too, we knew all each other's secrets, even those who truly can not trust anyone, walking day and night, slept in the open air, huddled together, we had a lot of conversations on different topics, well on all topics. During this time, well, a 1-year of friendship, he had a one girlfriend, and that for 2 weeks, and no girlfriends till now. After 2 years, we lived together, how friends, his parents went aboard fot half of year, and he next day, invited to stay with him, well, that is, relationship we have had was very close. Well that was a couple of times cursing, but then, most of my fault. by himself,he is peaceful (hi wount hurt a fly), kind to me, never have lied to me, I trust him on 100 %, body shape, gestures, they like a girl, well, it sometimes confused with it. Then about a year ago, we somehow began to meet less often, well, a week, God forbid 4 -5 times, and then I started to wake up feeling, I began to understand that I can no longer refers to him as just frind, I began the very real attraction to him, I often think about him and all that ... But now, everything changed, I and he works, we just see each other rarely, but when we see each other, we can spend hours talking about everything, I can not tell him about my feelings, my courage is not enough .. Sad
Now when more began to interact with gay, began to notice that he is very similar to the gay, I used to not notice, that is gestures, manner of communication, look (even when he had a girl, I caught a notice that he kissed her, he looks at me, but then i didn't payed ma attention to that.), often smiling for me, not to the other ...
There were some very interesting cases, we have a common friend and when I was still dating with the girls, he said it so often complained that there Kostya again new girlfriend and she asked if he is not jealous, well, as they say, that hurted his feelings, he was jealous ... Yes, and all the other friend are joking that that we couple ...
Well, what else to say .. Well, we have common interests with him, music, sport, together engaged in, read the same books, watching same movies and then heh ... often stay at each other's homes. but is seams to me, that we got away a little bit from each other, as friends.
I don't look like gay, if you would saw me you would not have believed that I'm gay, well I can fight in any bar, get drunk and sing songs., simple clothes, well, like an adolescent boy. i don't know how can i show him, that i'm gay and i realy like him. i don't want to ruin realationship with him as a friend... i'm not shore if he is gay so if you can advise me smt, pls...
Well. Sorry for that essay, but I could write and write

Had a wonderful day with my girl,
have you ever had a "perfect day" with ur partner if so what happened? If not what would be your perfect day?:confused:

How do you guys handle attention from women?

Do you play along or tell them straight up that you're gay?

What are peoples views on body hair, namely chest hair/stomach/general torso area. Is it good or bad? Would a hairy guy be a positive thing or negative thing, obviously i know things like personality would add to it yadda yadda yadda. But from a purely physical aspect is it good or not?

Just something i've always wondered people's views on really

Hey fellow QueerUK members,

My boyfriend recently suggested that we go out clubbing in a different town and "dance with whoever we want and bring someone who we both like back to our hotel room." He added that we would have rules like, no sex with the other person.

I have always been a monogomous person and a hopeless romantic. Though I don't tell him this in order not to scare him off, I do want to spend the rest of my life with my BF. I feel like I must succumb to this desire of his in order to keep the relationship going. It does make me cringe to think of someone laying their hands on him.

He is 27, soon turning 28 and I am 24. He often tells me that he is not sure if he is ready for something too serious (ie our relationship) and wants to enjoy a fun life in the last of his 20s. But he also tells me that he doesn't wanna let me go. We are both in love and are enjoying the relationship. He once did make out with someone at the clubs and I wasn't there - that completely destroyed me at the time but we made peace after that.

Would you guys consider involving a third?

we all feel preassurised sometimes into feeling like we have to fit into some form of niche, but we dont really... when you're happy thats the main thing! :)
i did this post a while ago, and i'd love it if you guys could read it! :D

http://socyberty.com/gay-lesbians/ga...ct-or-fiction/

Do you know any Twins? I recently read that it is impossible for two twins to be identical and opposite genders, only same gender twins can be identical.

So do you know any twins and are they identical or fraternal [not identical]?

Hey so
I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!!! whooooooooooo! I'm meeting the parents next week and theres a bit of stigma because they didnt know she was bi and theres a big age gap: 7 years ( 18 and 25)

ANY
advice wud be greatly appreciated

xxxxx

Hi, I’m just after some advice on whether or not my close friend is gay/bi?

I’m now 24, he is now 21.

It all started in 2007 when we met each other through a few friends we both knew. I met him at a party – mainly just an introduction and hi and bye – I didn’t really think anything of it. But then he actively seeked out my msn and phone number, and we got talking online. I recall barely knowing him, and he told me he had just split with his gf of 9mths because he got bored... (As i get to know him better, I find out that he is a very secretive person, he doesn’t share/show his feelings... so why tell me, and only me he split with her when he barely knew me??) anyway we used to talk everyday without fail, there wouldn’t be a minute in the day where we wouldn’t know what each other was doing. Essentially we became close friends.
But do close friends do things like these?
-Become upset that I rarely spoke to him in person (he told me online)
-At his house, he wanted to style my hair (so i let him?)
-At his house, he decided to show me his clothes collection and proceeded to try them on (mainly jackets)
-When we were out with other friends, we were different towards each other, but when we were alone he made me feel special... He used to enjoy my company too.
-The way we made eye contact with each other
-His body language ...
-How he cared for me and how he confided in me
Anyway this is where it gets confusing, out partying one night, he meets a girl, and he gets talking to her, basically they like each other? But he still talks to me and treats me in the same way as before... (I wonder how he found the time to talk/chill with her?) By now, I do have feelings for this person so naturally I became jealous and insecure, many a time, at least five times I’d always get into deep serious convo with him online saying that something was playing on my mind, and I didn’t know how to tell him. The furthest I got was I told him that if he got with that girl I’d be really upset..
In the end, he doesn’t get with the girl... and things become normal again, until every now and then I always try and tell him my feelings but I just couldn’t ... in the end if he kinda got sick of it.. and we began drifting apart.
Having drifted apart, I still had feelings for him but didn’t see/talk to him anymore OR very rarely... a year after all this happened, we’re out on a night out with all our friends, and he gets stupidly drunk.. I however am completely sober. We’re outside the club, and he just wanted me next to him, no one else... (he would get aggressive with others when they approached). He then kept saying sorry to me, I kept asking what he meant, until he finally said one sentence.. he said that I told him that I loved him (which i never?) , and that he was sorry for what he did to me (us drifting apart) and that he just wanted things how they used to be between us....
Nothing came from that drunken conversation, as I didn’t want to get hurt so I left it.
Fast foward to present day, we’re finally getting a bit close again, we hang out with each other, only us two.. .and we still have the same amount of fun as we used to, but not on a level of making each other feel special?
Just the other day on the way home from being out chilling for a day, he said “so where we gonna go next time?” and then he quickly proceed to say.. “well... you know like in 2 months or whatever” .... I knew he stumbled..

I’m sorry that this is really long winded.. but to this day I still have feelings for this guy =( I’m gonna get myself really hurt in a few months probably! But, why did he say those things to me when he was drunk? He clearly knows my sexual orientation, and if he is straight, surely he wouldn’t wanna become close friends with me again? I mean back in 07 he used to make fun of me and call me podgy.. now in 2010 he still does, along with the odd grabbing of my nipple for a joke!

If anyone has any questions, lemme know!

Either in a malicious way by someone physically following you or in a virtual way or i any other way you can think of, have you ever been stalked?

What actions did you take?

As opposed to a hetero one, I know that most of you can't make that comparison, but still I think you can post what do you like the most.

I would say that there are some things that I like is that there are not fixed genre roles, not the typical "the man has to be the protector, the strong, etc" in a gay relationship there are times when you can assume one role or the other, as you feel that is right in that moment, so it's in a way a relationship more of equals, and that for me is a great advantage. :wink:

So, what do you think? is any in particular you like of a gay relationship?

Because I worry about it inordinately. I'm not in the least promiscuous, never had unprotected anal, (well, okay, I did once, but the guy was a virgin) only way I would catch it is through BJs. (Which I don't go in for regularly at all)

I think I might go and get a test, because it really worries me. But then I am a complete hypocondriac.

Can anyone calm me down?

me and my boyfriend have broken up so im single again

he claims im to needy and he considers needy being wanting to hold him when i see him which is only once every couple of months, and that i want him to say " i love you" when we log off msn everynight

:/ but i dont think theres any chance of getting back together cause i cnt change

I do - I think I was proberlly like most people in the bath when I saw my first hair :smile: